7 Tips to Beat a Low Sex Drive
When it comes to marriage or a long term relationship, sex is an important act that brings two people closer together and improves intimacy. However, many people are experiencing some difficulties in this area, especially when it comes to sex drive. After some period of time, one person in the relationship usually stops feeling desire, which can lead to frustration on the side of the other person, which can further lead to tension in the relationship.
Sometimes, the source of all problems are hormones.
For instance, when men’s testosterone levels are low, the sex drive will be as well. If you have checked your blood and there seems to be nothing wrong with you physically that would reduce the desire for sex, then it is time to dig a little deeper and try to fix this problem with your mind.
1. Deal with stress in the best way possible.
Stress is a well known trigger of many diseases and can cause loss of sex drive as well. When you’re stressed out, it is natural not to want to be intimate with your partner, especially if every little thing annoys you.
You’re probably thinking that it’s easier said than done, but there are several de-stressing techniques that can help you with your problem. Deep breathing, switching to positive thinking, meditation, listening to some relaxing music – these can all help you deal with stress successfully. And once you are in balance with yourself and can relax, you will be more open to intimacy and fun time in the bedroom with your partner.
2. Work on your relationship.
Sometimes, a low sex drive is a result of negative feelings in a relationship, misunderstandings, the lack of attention, and not being connected well enough.
If you are not satisfied with your relationship, you will probably not want to have sex with your partner either. Try to talk things out if you have some problems, try having meaningful conversations more often, spend some quality time together and get to know each other a little better. Understanding your partner better and helping them understand you is an important step to reaching a higher level in your relationship.
Once you are feeling good about your relationship, you will probably feel the desire again.
3. Be physically active.
When we are in long term relationships, after a while we tend to let ourselves go a little, start eating unhealthy satisfying foods, stop exercising regularly, etc.
When you start feeling unsatisfied about your body, you start feeling ashamed or undesired and that automatically lowers your sex drive. But there is an easy way to fix this – start eating healthier foods, and engage in physical activity, individually or with your partner.
If you choose to do it with your partner, it may turn out to be one more way to bring you closer together, and once you feel that connection, you are very likely to feel sexual desire as well. Not to mention the fact that you’ll feel better about yourself and have higher self-confidence, which can also be a good stimulator.
4. Find some time for yourself.
If you’re constantly spending time with your partner and everything you do has become a part of your daily routine, it may be time to mix things up a little.
Go out with your friends, read a good book, take up a course – anything that would make you happy and more satisfied. Having some time for yourself, focusing all your attention only to what you want and need, can be very refreshing. And then, when you start feeling better, you will probably want to share that with your partner and be more open to intercourse.
5. Experiment in the bedroom.
If you’re bored and tired of the ‘same old, same old’, it may be time to try something new.
Try poses that you’ve never tried before, put on some sexy lingerie, speak with your partner about the things you would want to try together, explore some fantasies, take a hot bath together or give each other a sensual massage.
There are so many things to spice things up. If you have absolutely no idea what you would like, maybe you should consider watching a romantic sensual movie together and figuring out what could turn you on. Making love in the same way can become pretty dull after a while, so it is important to keep things fresh.
6. Don’t focus on previous bad experiences.
If you haven’t had good sex with your partner for a long time, it doesn’t mean that it can’t change for the better.
Maybe the problem was in communication – you should be able to tell him/her what you like, and what you don’t like. Your partner is not psychic and if you’re faking orgasms it will only lead to your frustration and his continued ignorance; and lots of equally disappointing sex.
Telling your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t will bring you one step closer to better love making and having no more bad sexual experiences. Try to change the situation if you don’t like it, but NEVER AVOID the problem.
7. Be spontaneous.
Having sex at scheduled times and always at the same place can be a real mood-killer. Do it in unexpected places and times, fire up that passion and enjoy your time together. It will improve your sex life, as well as your entire relationship.